Don’t worry, I’m not going to sing the song; I ‘ve just been enjoying the sunshine this week, even though the grey clouds seem to have returned temporarily. Taking advantage of those warm rays reminded me that we need that boost of vitamin D and to feel genuinely happy in the moment. And we need to do that often.
Some folk seem to have the gift of being happy all the time. You know the ones I mean. The people who are consistently enthusiastic, cheerful, kind, smiling. The ones who always seem to say the right thing at the perfect moment, who see the redeeming feature in even the most challenging personalities. The ones who appear truly at one with themselves, and everyone is always glad to see them walk in. So what do they have, or do, and how can we model their behaviour? I’m making an assumption here that to be happy is a good state: at least sometimes! There are, of course, NLP techniques which can help with modelling, and you can find these in most manuals. There is also new and exciting research around your “heart brain” and ways of tapping into that too. Of course, a coach can help you in a far more personal, connected and creative way, so you’d be well advised to seek out an expert: I guess I would say that! But how do people achieve “happy”? Here’s what I found out from some general research, and from what I know. These suggestions are in a purely random order:
- it’s often genetic
- being married (yes, really!)
- having friends and being friends with your family
- having a faith and taking part in prayer and worship
- doing good things for others
- having a pet
- focusing on one thing at a time, to reduce stress caused by multitasking
- engaging in goals that fulfil you
- being in the here and now; being present
- taking part in activities that are known mood-lifters: exercise, listening to music, taking a hot bath,
Money, interestingly, does not feature, nor does education.
Here’s a lovely little extra blog which encapsulates the top 10. I can certainly vouch for the number one on the list, which is spending time with those you love. I’ve been doing a lot of that just recently, and I’m going to see if I can find some strategies to bottle that magic, so that it lasts for as long as possible. I’ll let you know how I get on! In the meantime, take a look at this list, and keep singing: “Because I’m happy…”