Titles of blogs often come to me as song titles or lyrics, in case you’re wondering. And this is the last time this year that I’ll be encouraging you to read a few words. The next couple of blogs will be a bit of fun for the festive season.
As all the festive aficionados will tell you, there’s now only 10 more sleeps! And don’t worry, this isn’t going to be a “ho, ho, ho” blog in the least. In fact this blog will suit you too, if you’re living somewhere where it’s not festive, no-one wants to be festive, or where Christmas isn’t even celebrated. This is a message that holds true all year round.
When did you last do something just for you? And what was it? I’d like to think it was something that was an essential part of your routine to be kind to yourself. Maybe it was time alone. Maybe it was time with others. Maybe it was a gorgeous meal or a simple cuppa. Whatever it was, I urge you to make taking care of yourself something you do as second nature.
In a mindfulness course I run, we talk about what being mindful means. I’m always at pains to point out that what it isn’t is sitting on a cushion, chanting “Om”. (Although there’s nothing wrong with that at all, if it works for you as part of a mindful way of living.) A very important part of being mindful is about watching, observing, being curious and asking questions.
Mindful self-care means knowing yourself and how you work. Here are 10 great self-care questions to ask yourself:
- What times of day are best for me to do whatever I need to do?
- Do I need to take some time out, extra care, to talk/vent/offload?
- Is it best to put my ego to one side for a moment and listen to my mind or body and do what’s best for me?
- Do I need to say, “no” or “yes”, even though my monkey-brain is is yelling at me to do the opposite?
- Is it best to ask for help now?
- Have I reached a point where I need to let go?
- What can I do more of/less of to help myself?
- What good, self-care habit do I need to re-start/start?
- What can I do to have a “wow” moment today?
- What could I do for me, that I would happily do for a dear friend?
So, are you ready to make a plan? Need some help? Why not book a discovery call with me?
If you’re in any doubt about taking time for yourself, even at a busy or stressful time, consider these wise words:
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” Rumi
Look after yourself. You’re the best person to do it.
And finally, if you’d like to read another, very sensible, caring blog, which I’d heartily recommend, check out Shamash Alidini’s offering about self-care here. It’s what inspired me to write this, so thanks, Shamash.